Drop the Ball’ says Tiffany Dufu, How to Let Go of the Standards that Work Against us Verse For Us

November 10, 2018
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This week in the guest chair is Tiffany Dufu. Author of Drop the Ball, this is Tiffany's memoir and manifesto that shows women how to to let go. According to foreword contributor Gloria Steinem, Drop the Ball is “important, path-breaking, intimate and brave.”

Named to Fast Company’s League of Extraordinary Women, Tiffany is Founder and CEO of The Cru, a peer coaching service for women looking to accelerate their professional and personal growth. She was a launch team member to Lean In and was Chief Leadership Officer at Levo, one of the fastest growing millennial professional networks. Prior to that, Tiffany served as President of The White House Project, as a Major Gifts Officer at Simmons College in Boston, and as Associate Director of Development at Seattle Girls’ School.

 

Tiffany serves on the Board of Girls Who Code and Simmons College. She is a member of Women's Forum New York, She lives in New York City with her husband and two children.

 

In this episode discover  

  • ‘What is driving me’ this week…
  • How do we create your own job description.
  • what is our purpose and our best use for our life? 
  • Exercises that will help you find your purpose.
  • How do we get away from standards that we are never going to meet 
  • And I answer a listener’s question in “Shirley I have a question!”  

 

From the podcast

 

Definition of Ambition:  Your  desire to achieve mastery of a craft combined with a desire to achieve public recognition for it  { from the book Necessary Dreams by Anna Fels } 

 

 

Exercises recommended by Tiffany; 

 

Exercise 1: Funeral Exercise -What do you want people to say about you in your Eulogy?

 

Exercise 2: Speak to 10-15 people in your life and ask them to share with you  a time when they have experience you at your best. Transcribe the stories that they tell – circle the words and phrases that are similar. What are the consistent experiences – your passion?  What drives you? what matters most to you?

 

Exercise 3: What do we hope to achieve in relationship to those areas in our life – then focus on your highest best use to what matters the most?  What do you do extraordinarily well and with very little effort?   Think about your work and what you do extra. What  that thing is likely to be your superpower. 

 

Exercise 4 : Learn how to say no – stop taking on tasks that are not yours

 

 

Link to the book that Tiffany mentions 

 

 

Links to articles about Tiffany :https://www.businessinsider.com/drop-the-ball-tiffany-dufu-2017-6

 

 

Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu 

Links to her book on Amazon :https://www.amazon.com/Drop-Ball-Achieving-More-Doing/dp/1250071739

 

Necessary Dreams by Anna Fels: https://www.amazon.com/Necessary-Dreams-Ambition-Womens-Changing/dp/0679758887/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541789164&sr=8-1&keywords=necessary+dreams

 

 

Steven Covey: 7 Habits of highly Effective People 

 

https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/1451639619/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1541789210&sr=8-2&keywords=7+habits+of+highly+effective+people

 

 

 

Connect with Tiffany: http://tiffanydufu.com

 

 

Links to articles about Tiffany :https://www.businessinsider.com/drop-the-ball-tiffany-dufu-2017-6

 

 

Links to her book on Amazon :https://www.amazon.com/Drop-Ball-Achieving-More-Doing/dp/1250071739

 

 

 

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SHE'S GOT DRIVE  is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by awesome female band Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

 

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EPISODE 41: “Be Ready to Recognize Opportunity” - Sharlene Brown Shares How She Does it.

November 2, 2018
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This week sitting in the guest chair is Sharlene Brown the executive director of The Partnership for Responsible Financial Inclusion. Previously, she served as National Director of Oikocredit-USA, where she raised investment capital and provided development education on micro-finance and social performance to investors with more than US$35 million in assets. She has previously  overseen  projects for micro-finance institutions in Sub-Saharan Africa and the Middle-East/North Africa. And worked in the socially responsible investment marketplace as a business development manager for Domini Social Investments, Ms. Brown holds a Bachelor’s from Wellesley College and an MBA from the University of Phoenix.

In this episode discover  

  • ‘What is driving me’ this week…
  • How Sharlene came from an immigrant background to becoming a micro finance expert 
  • How Sharlene in her work of addresses Financial insecurities she is creating powerful futures for clients
  • What her Mum’s Jamaican saying taught her 
  • How this Financial wiz talks  guides  women to get themselves out of debt.
  • ‘Sharlene’s courageous moment’- a new segment on the show to inspire you to your own moments of bravery 
  • And I answer a listener’s question in “Shirley I have a question!”  

 

Sharlene’s  Quote of the week: 

“Be who you are, be at the right place and time, be ready to recognize opportunity - Keep your eyes open. You never know”

 

 

Connect with Sharlene: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharlene-brown-7837298/

 

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SHE'S GOT DRIVE  is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by awesome female band Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

 

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Connect with me through Social Media 

 

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Episode 40: ‘Trust and Know that its Going to be OK’ - How Dawanna Williams became one of a handful of Black Women building Condos in NYC worth millions?

October 26, 2018
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After four months away we re-launch She’s Got Drive Podcast with some small changes, but what has not changed is the amazing women that I interview to inspire you to be the driver in your own life. 

This week is the wonderful Dawanna Williams Founder and Managing Principal of Dabar Development Partners sitting in the guest chair . One of only a handful of black females owning a commercial development business in the NYC area. An experienced real estate development and investment firm focused on developing distinctive real estate properties primarily in New York City.  Dawanna Williams has over 20 years of experience in the real estate industry. Prior to founding her company  in 2003, Ms. Williams worked as a commercial real estate lawyer, spending most of her career at international law firm, Sidley Austin LLP - yes the same as the Obamas! From 1994 to 2003, Ms. Williams represented major developers, international governing authorities, investment banks, institutional lenders, and private equity investors in connection with a wide range of high-profile real estate transactions. During this period, those projects involved millions of spatial square feet and over $1 billion in transaction value.

In this episode discover  

  • ‘What is driving me’ this week…
  • The song that has kept me going over the last 4 months 
  • Dawanna’s love of real estate since she was so young - you will be amazed
  • her powerful definition of success i will give you new insights for your success 
  • Her beginnings as a real estate lawyer 
  • How personal crisis can lead to a higher calling 
  • What social housing can be when Dawanna is at the helm 
  • ‘A courageous moment’- a new segment on the show to inspire you to your own moments of bravery 
  • And I introduce “Shirley I have a question!” to the podcast : remember to send me your questions !!!

Connect with Dawanna: https://www.dabardevelopment.com/about

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/dawannawilliams/?hl=en

Thank you again Martin Sapp Ministries for allowing me to play “Never would have Made it”  from the Thirst album.   Stop what you are doing and download the song  now and his books on his websitehttp://marvinsapp.com/shop-now/ and  iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/never-would-have-made-it/258502925?i=258503371

 

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SHE'S GOT DRIVE  is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by awesome female band Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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Episode 39:  Karen Chaplin, Educator and Advocate of Young People Teaches us a Mantra to Achieve Our Dreams

May 25, 2018
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This weeks episode my guest is Karen Chaplin. Karen is an independent Education Management Professional. She was the former County Supervisor of Education for Essex and Passaic counties, New Jersey Department of Law and Public Safety, the Coordinator of Regional Post-Release Programs, GED Program Director at the Jamesburg New Jersey Training School for Boys, and special education instructor for the severely disabled in the NJ Department of Corrections. She started her life as an educator as a 4th grade and middle school teacher, specializing in reading. She sits on numerous Boards bringing her educational expertise to the organizations and communities that she serves.

Karen Chaplin earned a BS in Education at Lesley University and an M.Ed in Educational Leadership at the College of New Jersey. She is proud to have been married for 36 years to Chuck Chaplin, , and to be the mother of two awe- some children her daughter Beverly  and her son Eddie.

Find out 

  • What enabled Karen to follow her passion 
  • How you can be unstoppable in pursuing your dream - learn this mantra
  • What we can do as parents and people in the community to support our children’s education  
  • Why advocacy is so important in education and the various ways Karen advocates for young people 
  • Karen’s three biggest life lessons 

 

Connect with Karen: 

Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-chaplin-1a203112/

 

She’s Got Drive is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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Episode 38 Celebrating 1 Year of She’s Got Drive Podcast - Listen to the very first Episode

May 11, 2018
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Welcome to the First Anniversary of She's Got Drive Podcast and this week I take you back to our first episode recorded live at the Apollo in May 21017. I am so proud of hosting this podcast and am grateful to  all my guests and you for listening and supporting She's Got Drive. I hope you enjoy listening to this again or for many of you it will be for the first time.

In this episode, five wonderful women with five different professions join my panel at Women of the World Festival at the Historic  Apollo in Harlem NY to have a conversation about their own experiences of success.

 

They share their personal stories and talk powerfully about how:

  • you can create your success as your life changes and that you are the architect of your life 
  • being motivated by their upbringing  and family commitments 
  • to meet a new version of yourself 
  • Negative motivators can be a positive motivator 
  • your access to success is to keep moving 
  • success can also be a burden 
  • knowing can be an obstacle 
  • life is about learning lessons 
  • important is self-care 

  

Information of the Panelist and Social Media information 

 

Malene Barnett  Studio B - Award winning Interior designer 

 

Malene is Founder and Design Director of Malene B, a company specializing in handcrafted custom carpets, inspired wallcoverings and artisan tiles. Her luxe creations have enlivened premier hotels, iconic office buildings, and sophisticated private spaces. , She has been featured in Huffington Post and Design Sponge columns, in both national and international press. 

 

instagram https://www.instagram.com/malenebatelier/

website : https://www.maleneb.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maleneblifestyle/

twitter: https://twitter.com/maleneblife 

 

Dr. Shalei Simms, Assistant VP of Academic Affairs at Suny College at Old Westbury. Her work has been featured in such publications as Group Decisions and Negotiations journal andInternational Perspectives of Social Entrepreneurship Research. She sits of the Board of Managers on the Bedford-Stuyvesant YMCA. She was also a member of the Supervisory Committee of the Teachers Federal Credit Union one of the largest credit unions in the country.

 

Kimberly Seals Allers, Award winning Journalist, Author,  Speaker and communications consultant advocate for breastfeeding and infant health. A former senior editor at ESSENCE and writer at FORTUNE magazine. Last year  She published her fifth book, The Big Let Down—How Medicine, Big Business and Feminism Undermine Breastfeeding.  She is the author of The Mocha Manual series.  The Mocha Manual to a Fabulous Pregnancy was nominated for a NAACP Image Award. The Mocha Manual to Turning Your Passion into Profit and The Mocha Manual to Military Life. 

 

instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/iamksealsallers/

website:  http://www.kimberlysealsallers.com

twitter : https://twitter.com/iamKSealsAllers

 

Tanique Blair,  - VP of  Business Operations and Planning at Nickelodeon.  Tanique is a 17 year Nickelodeon veteran, has overseen the Preschool Toy, Amusement, and Musical Instrument businesses, working on mega hits like Dora the ExplorerSpongeBob SquarePants and The Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles; and managed relationships with top industry leaders including, Mattel, Fisher Price, Matchbox and Power Wheels. 

 

Regina Fleming - Award winning Photographer, CEO of Regina Fleming Photography 

Regina is a former model and actress, a motivational speaker, and a marathon runner. Over a 20 year span, she has appeared in hundreds of publications including, O Magazine, Good Housekeeping, Forbes and Essence. Regina was first place at the Wedding and Portrait Photographers International (WPPI) Awards of Excellence Print Competition for both her wedding and portrait photography. She is a graduate of the distinguished Tory Burch Foundation and Goldman Sachs 10,000 Small Business Program.

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamreginafleming/  

Website: http://www.reginafleming.com

 

Connect with  Shirley 

 

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Episode 37: I am living my passion each and every day. Find out how this fashionista, Naomi Emiko, created the career and life she loves.

May 5, 2018
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This weeks episode has Naomi Emiko,  Head  of Corporate Communications at Dorothee Schumacher in the guest chair. A former fashion stylist for Vogue Germany, Vogue Japan and Vogue Italy, and 'cut her teeth' at Conde Nast. She  is now responsible for global communications, strategic PR and content creation at Dorothee Schumacher, as well as a guest lecturer at the University of Mannheim, Germany.   And not to mention has worked with Naomi Campbell 

Find out:

  • How she worked for the prestigious LVMH Dior and Conde Nast 
  • What is is like to work in fashion 
  • How she uses her inner guide to make decisions that are right for her
  • Her experience as a black woman in fashion 
  • How she chooses to lead in a transformational way 
  • The influence of her mother 
  • The three things that has got her to where she is today 

 

Connect with Naomi: 

https://www.dorothee-schumacher.com/en/us

linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nemiko/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/n__o____e/?hl=en

She’s Got Drive is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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SHE'S GOT DRIVE  is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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Episode 36: Style Yourself From the Inside Out, Pasha Cook teaches us that Personal Branding comes from within

April 26, 2018
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This week we have the second Pasha Cook episode. Founder of Pasha Cook Associates, an image and branding consulting agency that helps their clients take their brand to the next level. She is the author of Brand Yourself Like a Champion , Cultivating Brand Excellence. She is also a wardrobe/fashion  stylist for celebrity athletes.

Hear more wisdom from this personal Brand expert who is passionate at supporting you on creating an authentic you in the world. 

AND FIND OUT: 

  • Key Style Tips for the successful you 
  • Where her style inspiration came from 
  • The fun in  consignment  shopping and how to make it your own 
  • The beauty of learning aesthetic and how you can make your clothes yours
  • The importance of evaluating your relationship to your work and whether it is a self expression for you
  • What it takes to get to where you want to be?
  • Her three life lessons that are  fabulous guides for us all - you will want to write them down! 
  • The Powerful impact of Spirituality on her life 

 

Connect with Pasha: 

Website: https://www.pashacook.com

Email: info@pashacook.com 

instagram:@pashacook

LinkedIN:Pasha on linked in   

Brand  Yourself Like a Champion: Buy Pasha's book on Amazon here

 

SHE'S GOT DRIVE  is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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Episode 35: Pasha Cook Demonstrates How to Show Up in Your Truth and Power and Create Your Personal Brand

April 19, 2018
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In this weeks episode we have Pasha Cook founder of Pasha Cook Associates, an image and branding consulting agency that helps their clients take their brand to the next level. She is the author of Brand yourself like a Champion, Cultivating Brand Excellence. She is also a wardrobe/fashion  stylist for celebrity athletes. She is so inspiring that this is part 1 of the interview and the follow up will be next week.

Find out 

  • How this high school dropout became an  international branding consultant 
  • How she transformed her life as a division one basketball player to an educator,  and fashion professional. 
  • How you can create your brand from  the inside out
  • The power of decluttering the things in your life that does not serve you
  • The defining transformational moment when she changed the direction of her life that is a powerful message for us all 
  • And the power of spirituality

 

Connect with Pasha : 

Website: https://www.pashacook.com

Email: info@pashacook.com 

instagram:https://www.instagram.com/pashacook/

linked in:https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashacook/

Her book - Book Brand  Yourself Like a Champion : https://www.amazon.com/Brand-Yourself-Like-Champion-Cultivating/dp/0998315729/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1524099317&sr=8-1&keywords=brand+yourself+like+a+champion

  

She’s Got Drive is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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:
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Episode 34 Keep Rocking your 2018 Goals : How to stay on track to win

April 5, 2018
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As we come to this stage in the year its time to check in on your 2018 goals. Many people miss out this important step and if you want to achieve your goals in life, a review is one of the best things that you can do to be successful. This week I guide you through a method to look at how you are doing so far so that you can stay on track, or even for some of you I know its to get back on track. Also find out the phases that you will go through to in order to produce results in 2018. 

She’s Got Drive is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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Grab your pdf on The Operating States: https://shirleymcalpine.podbean.com/mf/web/9xkf5q/The_Operating_States_light_version_.pdf

 

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EPISODE        How to win at your 2018 goals :https://shirleymcalpine.podbean.com/mf/web/7j66a5/Solo_Episode_2018_2.mp3

 

EPISODE        Self Care SOS :https://shirleymcalpine.podbean.com/mf/web/7j7jw8/SGD_Self_Care.mp3

 

EPISODE       PIE: https://shirleymcalpine.podbean.com/mf/web/chc8g7/SGD_Lisa_Stewart.mp3

 

 

Connect with Shirley on Instagram :https://www.instagram.com/shirleymcalpine_/

GO to  shirleymcalpine.com  for a free download of guide on the P.I.E. 

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Episode 33: ‘You Cannot Do it Alone’ - How Director Renee Edwards turned her Passion into an Award Winning Film

March 21, 2018
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In this weeks episode with have Renee Edwards Director | Editor |Producer | Writer. A  multi-award winning film maker with over 25 years experience. Renée is the Director of  'One Note at a Time', to be released in 2018. The film documents New Orleans' musicians and a Clinic which helps to save their lives, post Hurricane Katrina.  It's has been awarded 'Film of the Festival', 'Best Feature Documentary' and 'Best Score' at the Oxford Int' Film Fest', 'Best Documentary' at the Nottingham Int' Film Fest', 'Best Feature Documentary' at the Studio City International Film Fest' and a Los Angeles Film Review Independent Film Awards Gold Winner. 

Find out how this award wining director kept going with the creation of this 10 year passion project - her award wining film One Note at a Time.

  • How she self funded her film to the tune of 350,000.00 GBP
  • How she learnt to create team around her and what did she learn about that 
  • What she discovered about herself 
  • How she became a filmmaker 
  • Whats is next for her - this film director who also writes children’s books 

This  multi-talented woman with drive is an inspiration on how to stay the course and keep pursuing your dreams

 

 

Connect with Renee: 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/OneNoteFilm

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onenotefilm/

Imdb http://www.imdb.com/title/tt4780544/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Website www.onenoteatatime.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renee-edwards-36748317/

 

Trailer:  One Note at a Time Official Trailer (2017) Documentary HD

 

She’s Got Drive is produced by Cassandra Voltolina and music by Blonde. Artwork by Natasha Merrifield 

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To connect with me and the She’s Got Drive community 

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